lomdar67 wrote: ↑Fri Jun 19, 2020 6:24 am
So you shouldn't request anything. You can ask or suggest features and that's it.
"to ask for" is literally the meaning of "to request", see
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/request
lomdar67 wrote: ↑Fri Jun 19, 2020 6:24 am
Sometimes these "suggestion" sound so demanding and for my taste this is not right and annoying! Sorry, but that's the way I see it.
Outside of obvious slurs there is no "sound" to text, which makes it so easy to misunderstand. In communication there is a sender who tries to word a message with a certain meaning and context in mind and a recipient who has to interpret the message according to their understanding of the words and within their own context. When the intonation of a voice and visual cues (body language) are missing, then it is the recipient who fills in the gaps with the context they are having in mind. In other words: It can be the recipient who in their own mind adds negativity or hostility to a message that contained none to begin with. It gets worse with language barriers on international forums, because then subtext and connotation are even less reliable than among native speakers.
I can only speak for myself now:
I am never angry or put any hostility in my messages and would want them to be read with a soft, warm and benevolent voice in mind. For example, some people probably read my message from earlier "Do we really need to throw so much "crap" around here?" with an angry and shouting voice in their mind. Try reading it again with a warm and benevolent voice and you will see that there isn't any inherent hostility even is such, text only, words that are void of intonation.
In general, from my own community experience that I can offer:
A good code of conduct in discussions would be to always assume the best intention, but if something comes across in a negative way, then this mindset requires a simple request for clarification, in the way of "this came across like ..., was that your intention?". It is a benevolent mindset of discussion culture that makes debating the most enjoyable.
Likewise, intentions need to be made clear and cannot be assumed by other, third parties. Fruitful discussion requires a to and forth of stating and offering viewpoints that differ and it is only natural to start with a position of disagreement. Claiming disagreement is not claiming the other person to be wrong, but stating that the viewpoints differ. What then happens is an exchange of facts, cases and descriptions of reasons to fully try to explain there differing viewpoints. Viewpoints and opinions can change or can be revealed to not actually disagree to begin with.
There was no statement of rejection to implement such a feature, this discussion here never reached such a point. If there were such a clear statement of "I do not want to do it" that would simply be respected by all parties involved and there would be no hard feelings. Such a statement must come from the people actually involved in that discussion, though and cannot be made on behalf that person by third parties (this is usually refered to as white knighting). Nobody demanded anything, like nobody is required to do anything.
Discussions go a certain way and people behave in certain ways. This is individuality. Together with the emotional void that is the nature of simple text, of course it happens that we: 1) Dislike how a discussion is evolving after getting involved or 2) dislike the topic or mode of a discussion before getting involved. Keeping in mind that nobody is obligated to post, the sensible option is to either stop replying or, if there was no involvement in the discussion yet, to not get involved in the first place. Doing so otherwise quickly leads to derailing the topic, because there is nothing constructive added. Such posts are "off topic". Naturally it may happen that users who are not very aware of this try to steer the discussion culture of a thread to what they deem is the best form of conduct and they do so with the best of intentions. Literal users-level individuals are equals though and if one tries to impose their preferred way onto others, that is usually called "bullying" or "backseat moderating".
Again only speaking for myself:
After 1,5 years of using MiSTer I do a lot of user support here - something I always did and Sorgelig happened to request in his disclaimer recently -, because it is inherent to this aforementioned spirit of a benevolent approach to help each other. There is experience gathered over time and such experience shared makes a community stronger and more pleasant, as well as ultimately the product the community revolves around better. Helping newcomers to overcome initial hurdles helps a community to grow and as a side effect to again add more diverse opinions and viewpoints. In discussions these diverse opinions allow to find better solutions again. More individuals > more viewpoints > more ideas to pick and choose from. This was such a thread of exchaning ideas and viewpoints.
This discussion here is indeed entirely derailed now, but I would be glad to pick it up again, because the different views on our very niche hobby can only make the product better not worse and image representation on screen according to different TV standards appears to be a woefully neglected topic.
Thus: Let's go back to a constructive on-topic talk.